Most people approach their lives from a victim’s perspective.
When something doesn’t work out, it’s someone else’s fault. When their career goes awry, when they fail, or when the result doesn’t materialize, they are never to be blamed. These people let external circumstances decide their fate. They live by default.
And there are those who immediately grab every situation by the horns.
They already wake up with a plan, they clearly understand their goals, they know what needs to be done, and when something does not work out, they start analyzing what they did wrong. They know that success is a process, and they are willing to go through the process, knowing that it will lead to something greater. These people create the life they want to live and accept nothing less.
It’s easy to follow bad habits that lead to life by default. It happens all the time.
People say, “I want to lose weight,” and put another handful of crisps in their mouths.
People say, “I want to get up early,” while hitting the snooze button ten times.
People say, ‘I’m not happy with my work,’ but they don’t make any lifestyle changes – they just expect it to change on its own.
So if you would like to change your life read the 5 important tools below:
1. Write your main goal on a sheet of paper.
Write down your goal on a piece of paper, and then repeat it out loud every morning and every night.It may sound silly, but try it for a month and see what happens. This firmly implants in your subconscious what you are working on and helps attract into your life what you need to bring it to life.
2. Surround yourself with people you want to be like.
People who live by default live around people who live by default. Similarly, people who create their own lives live next to people who live the same way.
Choose your friends carefully.
As the saying goes, “You are a reflection of the five people you spend the most time with.”Ensure that the people who fill your life and your time are people who live up to your principles. Ideally, these people should be even slightly ahead of you, forcing you to keep growing in the direction you want to go.
3. Set goals and achieve them.
Setting goals is easy, but very few people follow through with them. People who make their own lives practice the habit of setting goals and achieving them. No matter how big or how small, they set goals and achieve them. This constant practice allows them to set bigger and bigger goals and see them through to completion.
4. Don’t be afraid to go your own way.
If you want to design your life, you must be willing to let go of people and environments that no longer serve a standard way of thinking. Everyone will insist that you are “crazy.” Everyone will point and share their opinions, and then somewhere in the future, they will all come back. They will see the life you have built for yourself and ask how you did it.
5. Be disciplined.
If you really want to Create your life, you must exercise discipline.
This is important because the problem with a number in life comes down to saying no. To be who you think you are, to get where you want to go, you have to say “no” a hundred times more often than you say the word “yes”. You have to stay true to yourself and your mission, and the only way to do that is to have a powerful sense of self-awareness and discipline. The best way is to create habits in your life that you will never give up to anyone.
These habits are much more than just actions in themselves.Take going to the gym, for example. Depending on how you feel about it, it’s not just ‘the gym’. It’s a practice that you commit to every day, and it’s through this commitment, you make very clear (to yourself and others) what you want and don’t want to do.
Take good care of your time.
Create your life.
LIFE IS WONDERFUL!